5.2 I've never been spanked before but would like to be. What should I do?
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This article is from the Spanking FAQ, by Redman@cris.com (C-Red) with numerous contributions by others.
5.2 I've never been spanked before but would like to be. What should I do?
If you're adverse to asking for a spanking, you can try being teasing and
'naughty' and hinting that you deserve one; however, unless your partner is
already into spanking, and unless you are looking for fairly mild, playful
spankings, you'll probably have to talk to your partner sooner or later
about your desires.
In some senses, it is easier to be a spankee than a spanker. You don't have
to worry about your partner thinking that you want to hurt him or her.
However, asking for a spanking comes with it's own set of dangers.
The biggest thing you want to be careful about is pressuring your partner.
Unless your partner is already into spanking, it's very likely that s/he
has no idea what your looking for, and thus, has no idea what you want.
This can be very nerve wracking! It is not easy to do something that you
know is hurtful to someone you care for.
Be patient. Keep in mind that your partner can't read your mind, and thus
can't feel the pleasure that comes with the pain of a spanking. Keep in
mind also that your partner doesn't know what effect s/he is having on your
bottom; try to help teach your partner what you like without being
discouraging.
Most importantly, give your partner time to get used to each new 'level' of
spanking. Do not try to push your partner too fast; that's a sure recipe
for making your partner frightened, or making your partner feel inadequate.
Try to react to spanking that you enjoy so that it's clear that your
partner made you happy; this helps a spanker get over the nervousness of
'hurting' you. Also, try to reward your partner for spanking you; this is
not only a good relationship builder, it's also a good way to help your
partner get turned on by spanking you.
Most importantly, don't be afraid to guide your partner; you may feel silly
laying over your partner's lap and saying "okay, try just a bit harder this
time", but the long term benefits are worth it. . . both in getting better
spankings, and in improving communication.
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