16 I Have A Problem With Weight. What Do I Do About This?
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This article is from the Internet Personals: Advice for Straights FAQ, by Dean Esmay esmay@syndicomm.com with numerous contributions by others.
16 I Have A Problem With Weight. What Do I Do About This?
Men especially need to be aware one thing regarding weight: it is
an unfortunate fact that the majority of women (in the U.S. and Canada
at least) believe they are overweight. Weight is a very touchy
subject for both sexes, but for women it is especially bad.
For men: don't ever say you want a slim woman unless you're positive
you want a stick woman, and are willing to exclude about 95% of the
female population. The simple fact is that MOST WOMEN BELIEVE THEY
ARE OVERWEIGHT. If you want to avoid obese women, say something like
you're looking for someone "Not obese" or "physically fit" or "weight
proportional to height."
For women: The above advice also goes for you, but men are a bit less
touchy on this subject, so you're more likely to be able to get away
with demanding thinness.
For everyone: if you ARE obese, male or female, JUST SAY SO IN YOUR
AD. Don't be afraid of this. You're preparing yourself AND whoever
you meet for a letdown if you're not blunt on this subject. If
you're fat, just say, "Hey, I'm queen sized" or "I'm John Goodman
sized" or something "I'm a rubenesque woman" or something like that.
Or just say "I'm fat." The point is, BE HONEST!
We live in a culture that values thinness, but there are a lot, and I
mean A WHOLE LOT, of people out there who genuinely DO NOT care about
weight. There are even a good number of people out there who LIKE
fatness and find it very attractive.
Don't be timid about it. If you're overweight, be forthright and
don't weasel around the subject, unless you look forward to the
prospect of being embarassed, disappointed, and hurt. Lots and lots
of people will love you if you're fat, and you're not giving
them a chance if you don't TELL them you're fat right up front.
Say it over and over again: Honesty, honesty, honesty!
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