17 We'Ve Traded Mail And Talked On The Phone And Things Are GoingReally Well!! What Do I Do When We Meet??
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This article is from the Internet Personals: Advice for Straights FAQ, by Dean Esmay esmay@syndicomm.com with numerous contributions by others.
17 We'Ve Traded Mail And Talked On The Phone And Things Are GoingReally Well!! What Do I Do When We Meet??
First off, calm yourself down. I've been through this and talked
to others who've been through it, and the first, most important thing
to remember is, DON'T GO BUILDING UP BIG HOPES AND DREAMS UNTIL YOU
MEET!
Until you actually meet someone, it's very easy to build up big
fantasies in your head about how the person looks, stands, walks,
etc. You can't help doing just a little of this, but try not to, and
keep in mind that what you do visualize will probably be very different
from reality.
It's also very easy to think you've fallen hard for someone you
haven't even met. Don't do this! Meet first! Don't go thinking that
just because you've exchanged a lot of email and talked on the phone
that you've found your dream love. Most especially don't go throwing
your heart in and confessing True Love until you've actually met.
Many online relationships happen very quickly and very fast, and it's
easy to sucker the other person, OR YOURSELF, into believing you have
something there that you don't. Take your time and realize that when
you do meet, it may not be there for you, or it may not be there for
the other person. Or that it might take time for something more than
friendship to develop.
On the other hand, if you meet and things DON'T go well, I also advise
not immediately giving up. Sometimes it takes time to adjust to
meeting this person "in real life" that you've gotten to know so well
in email. Remember, that person you got to know online IS still in
there, but may not be visible at first.
So again, what's the thing to have, everyone? That's it, you've got
it:
PATIENCE!
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