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19. What about shaving body hair and/or crossdressing?

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This article is from the Bondage FAQ, by numerous contributors.

19. What about shaving body hair and/or crossdressing?

Another fetish many people have is smooth skin, with no body hair.
Shaven skin is silky soft, completely and utterly naked, and very
vulnerable. Shaven legs, armpits, or genitals can feel very different
indeed than hairy ones... and since the name of the game is sensation,
naturally shaving and SM can go together!

Since shaving is conventionally a female activity, it carries an added
charge when men are shaved. It can be at once humiliating and
enormously arousing. Many men enjoy shaving themselves in order to play
with cross-dressing (dressing as a woman); hence I mention these two
topics together. Shaving first.

How to shave? Use a sharp razor and a bowl of hot water; splash water
over your leg (or wherever) and lather with shaving cream. Then shave
_with_ the direction of the hair (i.e. shave down the leg towards the
ankle, or shave from the navel towards the crotch); going against the
direction of the hair can lead to ingrown hairs when it starts to grow
back. Shave with short strokes, dipping the razor frequently in the
bowl to remove the hair. If you shave only seldom, you may go through a
couple of razor blades doing your legs alone.

Some people who shave infrequently use an electric razor first to remove
most of the hair, then a hand razor for the remainder and on the
sensitive areas. (Electric razors tend to pull hair, and they are most
annoying on genitals.) Some people swear by waxing (using sticky wax to
pull hair out) or by other non-shaving methods of hair removal; to each
their own. Shaving can be part of a scene; I've seen many gay-male SM
movies with big male tops forcibly shaving their prisoners, and I've
also seen dominatrixes washing then shaving their bottom's asses. (It's
hard to reach back there yourself, and being bound while a razor GENTLY
strokes your most sensitive region is... well... VERY intense!) Then
once they're shaven, you can go on to all sorts of other fun.

About crossdressing: many men enjoy dressing in female clothes, either
because the clothes feel good, look good, or are humiliating to wear.
Whatever the reason, there's no doubt that lots of people enjoy this
sort of thing. Makeup is often part of this sort of play, as well. Many
women also enjoy dressing up as men; switching gender roles can open up
a vast range of possibilities. Some people call this "genderfuck"--i.e.
fucking with one's perceptions of gender, or fucking someone who's
assuming a different gender, or both.

There is a spectrum of attitudes among those who play like this. Some
just enjoy wearing opposite-sex clothes because they feel nice. Some
fantasize about actually being a person of the opposite sex, and use
those fantasies in their scenes. Some people want to take it to the
point of going out in public dressed as, and acting like, the other
gender so accurately that they pass--i.e. are mistaken for the gender
that they're assuming. They may find doing this enjoyable because of
the fun in faking people out, and/or the thrill of successfully
transforming oneself into one's fantasy image.

Some people actually feel that their biological sex is fundamentally at
odds with the gender they feel themselves to be. They may feel like a
man who happened to be born with a woman's body, or vice versa. These
people are known as transsexuals, and may have operations to change
their bodies and genitals to more closely correspond to the gender they
most identify with. Transsexuals are still very widely stigmatized; it
is not easy to live in this very gender-based and sex-role-oriented
society if you don't conform to the standard pattern, and transsexuals
definitely do not. And while many of the kinds of genderfuck I
mentioned are "play", transsexuals are not playing; their gender
identity is a vitally serious issue to them. (Though when they _want_ to
play, there are few people who know more about it :-)

It's important to realize that these groups of people are distinct; just
because a man enjoys wearing panties underneath his business suit does
not mean he has any desire to get a sex change operation. As with all
aspects of human sexuality, gender and gender play encompasses a wide
array of levels, and honest communication is the only way to know what a
particular person is into.

Gender play can be combined with all the other things in this list to
create some extraordinarily powerful sex magick. As always, listen to
your desires, decide how much you actually want to make real (and how
quickly), communicate, and play!

 

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