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20. Why am I defending SM?

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This article is from the Bondage FAQ, by numerous contributors.

20. Why am I defending SM?

One of the problems with SM is the social programming against it. Our
culture isn't used to the idea that sex is fun and pushing one's limits
in search of pleasure is a damned enjoyable thing to do. Moreover, there
are lots of peoplpe who confuse fantasy and reality where SM is
concerned, and who think that SM players do likewise.

In this FAQ posting I have attempted to explain the ways I and my
friends feel about SM. I am doing this because I used to know very
little about SM; I only knew I was interested. Through s.s.b-b and lots
of new friends and LOTS of wonderful experiences, I learned. My life has
been enriched and my relationships deepened and strengthened by my
experience with SM. Now I want to describe all that in as open and frank
a manner as I know how.

If you believe SM is sick or disgusting, that is your prerogative. This
FAQ makes clear how it is not generally unhealthy to its practitioners;
it is up to you whether you accept this information or not. You do not,
however, have the right to stifle or censor those who would discuss this
aspect of themselves, because of your personal opinion about their
practices.

If you don't think you'd like it, that's more than fine with me; I would
just ask that you be open to what the SM community may have to teach
about consensuality, negotiation, safety, and exploration.

When I first started fantasizing about SM-related activities I was very
young indeed--under ten years old. I don't know where these aspects of
my sexuality came from; certainly not from my family. But when I started
learning about SM, I was first excited that there were others out there
who enjoy these things, and then depressed that there is lots of wrong
and harmful information out there about SM people and what we do. This
FAQ list is my attempt to help spread some better information, in the
hopes that the more everyone knows about what SM really is (and what it
is not), the harder it will be for people to use twisted facts to
condemn others because of their sexuality.

Also, there are things I'm describing that I don't enjoy (at least not
yet :-) This is not the FAQ List of the Gods, so don't take it as such;
listen to what I say and draw your own conclusions. And fer pete's sake,
post to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm with your questions and thoughts and
fantasies and dreams; the blood of s.s.b-b is always freshened by new
posters! (It helps distract us from the flame wars!)

 

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