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18. What is it about leather/latex/high heels/corsets/other fetishes?

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This article is from the Bondage FAQ, by numerous contributors.

18. What is it about leather/latex/high heels/corsets/other fetishes?

All these things--erotic clothing or objects of whatever type--are
"fetishes". A fetish is any object which has sexual connotations for
you. If it makes you feel sexy to wear it, or to see it on someone
else, it's a fetish. There's nothing wrong with having fetishes; in
fact, it's a rare person who _doesn't_ have any! Some people are turned
on by armpits; some by painted toenails; some by good old lingerie. The
techniques of negotiation and communication that I've already talked
about can also come in handy in exploring your particular fetishes,
whatever they are.

Leather is one of the most basic fetishes in the scene. Leather skirts,
leather chaps, leather harnesses, leather cuffs, on and on. Likewise for
latex. Much of the appeal of these two substances, it seems to me, is
in their tightness and their shininess; clothes made out of them enhance
your awareness of your sensual self, and restraints made out of them can
cling like a second skin. In general, leather and latex are two really
big categories of fetish--and a fetish is defined as something that
turns some people on; if you have to ask, you probably won't understand!

Leather clothes absorb fluids; don't get them wet. Plain water will
damage the leather; blood or other bodily fluids will also leave their
scent in the leather. You can use saddle soap and water to clean your
leather, and neats-foot oil to keep it supple and in good condition.

Latex doesn't absorb water-based fluids, but oils will damage it, and
prolonged exposure to sunlight will cause it to break down. When
putting your latex on, apply lots of talc to yourself and to the insides
of your latex; this will make it easy to slide it on. Don't pull the
latex with your nails, or it'll rip; likewise make sure you cut your
toenails before putting on latex stockings. After removing latex
clothes, wash them with water to remove oils, then dry them (and some
say powder them) for storage.

There are also PVC clothes ("wetlook" clothes), which are usually black,
shiny, and stretchy. PVC is basically plastic-coated fabric, and is
washable, as well as relatively inexpensive.

Of course, good old lingerie can be very arousing indeed. It's often
true that a little clothing is even sexier than none at all. Erotic
costumes and attire can add a lot of spark to a scene; they can set the
stage like nothing else. The mind is the biggest erogenous zone, and
role-playing and mock acting can be very very hot. whether combined with
any other elements of SM, or not.

As for corsets and high heels: they're both restrictive garments that
enhance the curves of the body, and that work really well as part of SM
play--they can enhance the domineering tread of a mistress or hobble the
steps of a slave. They are some of the classic fetish items. High
enough heels can make it altogether impossible to walk, which can be
very sexy! Corsets, properly applied, can dramatically change the shape
of your body, while intensifying sensation through- out. And corsets
and high heels, like any fetish, can be combined with many many
different kinds of scenes.

Other fetishes: dirty jockstraps, boxer shorts on women, formal clothes
on men, cowboy gear, uniforms (police/military/what-have-you), nurses'
outfits, harem girl attire... the list goes on and on. If it turns you
on to wear it or to see your partner wearing it, why not make it part of
a scene? (A button I heard about recently: "Are you into casual sex...
or should I dress up?")

In general with fetishes, anything goes! If you find yourself becoming
more involved with a fetish than you want to be, then you can take steps
to look at your behavior and determine if you want to change it. But if
you like it, and your partner likes it (or likes that you like it), and
if it's consensual all around, then go for it! And if you like fetish
clothing, check out the alt.sex.fetish.fashion
newsgroup--it's young, but it's growing....

 

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