5.6 What is a safeword?
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This article is from the Spanking FAQ, by Redman@cris.com (C-Red) with numerous contributions by others.
5.6 What is a safeword?
A safeword is a word that a spankee may use to stop spanking play
immediately. A safeword serves two purposes. It functions as a safety valve
to prevent the prolonged violation of limits. And, it allows the spankee to
engage in mock protests without confusing the spanker.
Common safewords are "red", "mercy", "uncle", and believe it or not
"aardvark" (it must be a west-coast thing). Some people also use cautionary
words such as "yellow" to signal that the play is getting close to the
limits and should be softened but not stopped.
Safewords seem to be more widely used in the general SM scene than in the
spanking scene; however, it is considered wise practice especially when
playing with someone for the first time. There are some pitfalls to watch
for, however. First of all, the use of a safeword does not relieve the
spanker of their responsibility to read and respond to non-verbal cues.
Safewords can give a false sense of security to both parties which is
dangerous if other forms of communication are ignored. Also, it is
considered bad form to intentionally force someone to use their safeword.
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