This article is from the Spanking FAQ, by Redman@cris.com (C-Red) with numerous contributions by others.
In general, consensuality means that both parties (the spanker and the
spankee) wish to engage in spanking play with each other and both are
able to stop the play at any time for any reason. Consensuality is more
difficult to define for spanking than for other types of erotic play.
For some, getting punished against one's will for a misdeed is a
powerful fantasy. To play out this fantasy thus requires some degree of
nonconsent. However, at some point before the activity there should have
been some sort of understanding of what the conditions or boundaries
would be. A pleasurable (even if painful) experience for both
participants should be the ultimate goal of an erotic spanking session.
 
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