This article is from the Celibacy FAQ, by email@example.com (ML Poulter) with numerous contributions by others.
Yes indeed, these books are celibate. No matter how long you spend reading
them, they will not attempt to have sex with other books.
Seriously, though, this is a selection of books which, as far as I can
tell from bookseller's lists and personal recommendations, deal with
celibacy in a secular context. One-paragraph summaries of these books
would be very welcome. There is a list of books which are relevant to
Christian celibacy and its associated lifestyle at
< http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/5953/#booklist >.
There is a huge literature on priestly celibacy which I have
decided to omit: a search on celibacy on a site such as the Internet Book
Shop < http://www.bookshop.co.uk/ > or Amazon < http://www.amazon.com/ >
is a good way to find these.
Some of these books have been reviewed by internet celibates. To give an
idea of our reaction, I will use that following rating system:
A frown :( means that the book is not likely to be relevant.
A smiley :) means that some parts of the book will be of interest.
Double smiley :) :) means that the book is recommended.
These are ratings of the relevance of the books to adult, voluntary,
usually secular celibates, not ratings of their literary merit.
Gabrielle Brown (1976), The New Celibacy : Why More Men and Women Are
Abstaining from Sex--And Enjoying It; McGraw-Hill
Sally Cline (1993), Women, Celibacy and Passion; Deutsch.
Carole Marsh (????), 50 Ways and 50 Reasons You Can Abstain from Sex--And
Why AIDS Will Make You 100% Glad You Did, Kid!; Gallopade.
:( (aimed at teenagers)
Patti Putnicki (1994), Celibacy Is Better Than Really Bad Sex: And Other
Rules for Singlewomen; Corkscrew. ISBN: 094404235X
Joan Avna and Diana Waltz (1994), Celibate Wives : Breaking the Silence;
Lowell House. ISBN: 1565651227
Barbara Moe (1995), Everything You Need to Know About Sexual Abstinence
(Need to Know Library); Rosen Publishing Group. ISBN: 0823921042
:( (aimed at teenagers)
Kristine Napier (1996), The Power of Abstinence : How Parents Can Help
Teens Postpone Sexual Activity & Achieve Emotional Security, Maximum
Self-Esteem, and Stay Healthy; Avon Books. ISBN: 0380783711
Dwight Lee Wolter (1992), Sex & Celibacy : Establishing Balance in
Intimate Relationships Through Temporary Sexual Abstinence; Fairview.
Rolf Zettersten (1995), Sex, Lies & the Truth : A Message from Focus on
the Family; Tyndale House. ISBN: 0842317309
:( (aimed at teenagers)
Netha L. Thacker and Kathleen Rae Miner (1996), Abstinence : Health Facts;
Etr Assoc. ISBN: 1560715022
:) (aimed at teachers, explaining abstinence to students, but presents
abstinence as more than just a teenage issue)
Eleanor Ayer (1997), Its Ok to Say No : Choosing Sexual Abstinence; Rosen
Publishing Group. ISBN: 0823922502
Pamela Pettler, Amy Heckerling and Jack Ziegler (1990), The No-Sex
Handbook; Warner. ISBN: 0446390542
David R. Eyler and Andrea P. Baridon (1991), More than Friends: Less than
Lovers: Managing Sexual Attraction in Working Relationships.; Jeremy P.
Thatcher, Inc. ISBN 0-87477-651-1
ANSLIM (1992), Beyond Sexuality; Phoenix Press
To order: send #4.50 (plus 1 pound for p&p within UK) to
A K Press, PO Box 12766, Edinburgh, EH8 9YE
:) (Covers many alternatives to normal sexuality)
A. W Richard Sipe (1996), Celibacy : A Way of Loving, Living, and Serving;
Triumph. ISBN: 0892438746 (This one seems to be primarily from a
Christian point of view, but I include it here because it seems to be
Liz Hodgkinson (1986), Sex is Not Compulsory : giving up sex for better
health and greater happiness; Columbus. ISBN: 0862872294
John Hoyland (ed) (1993), Bad Sex; Serpent's Tail. ISBN 1852423072 (a
collection of short stories)
Rosemary Curb and Nancy Manahan (Ed.) (1993) Breaking Silence : Lesbian
Nuns on Convent Sexuality: Women's Press
Regena English (1998), Leather Spinsters and their degrees of asexuality;
St. Mary publishing company. (A "Leather Spinster" is a happily
unmarried woman.) See the book's promotional web site:
http://www.leatherspinsters.com/ . They run a leather spinsters' e-mail
newsletter with thousands of subscribers.
Rae Andre (1991) Positive Solitude: A Practical Program for Mastering
Loneliness and Achieving Self-Fulfillment: Harper
Elizabeth Abbott (1999) A History of Celibacy: HarperCollins
Donna Marie Williams (1999) Sensual Celibacy: The Sexy Woman's Guide to
Using Abstinence for Recharging Your Spirit Discovering Your Passions and
Achieving Greater Intimacy in Your Next Relationship: Simon &
There is a facility to see more details on these books and to order them
over the 'net on the Web version of this FAQ, at