This article is from the Internet Personals: Advice for Gay Men FAQ, by Fred Young firstname.lastname@example.org and Dean Esmay email@example.com with numerous contributions by others.
First off, calm down. I've been through this and talked to others
who've been through it, and the first, most important thing to
remember is, don't go building up big hopes and dreams until you
Until you actually meet someone, it's very easy to build up big
fantasies in your head about how the person looks, stands, walks,
etc. You can't help doing just a little of this, but try not to,
and keep in mind that what you do visualize will probably be very
different from reality.
It's also very easy to think you've fallen for someone you haven't
even met. Don't do this! Meet first! Don't go thinking that just
because you've exchanged a lot of e-mail and talked on the phone
that you've found your dream love. Most especially don't go
throwing your heart in and confessing True Love until you've
Many online relationships happen very quickly and very fast, and
it's easy to sucker the other person, or yourself, into believing
you have something there that you don't. Take your time and
realize that when you do meet, it may not be there for you, or it
may not be there for the other person.
On the other hand, if you meet and things don't go well, I also
advise not immediately giving up. Sometimes it takes time to
adjust to meeting this person "in real life" that you've gotten
to know so well in e-mail. Remember, that person you got to know
online is still in there, but may not be visible at first.
So again, what's the thing to have, everyone? That's it, you've