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11. What is body piercing? What is "C& B" play, or "genitorture"?

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This article is from the Bondage FAQ, by numerous contributors.

11. What is body piercing? What is "C& B" play, or "genitorture"?

Piercings aren't just done to ears. People on this list have their
nipples, navels, eyebrows, clitoris hoods, penises, labia, and other
body parts pierced, and bits of metal permanently in the piercings.
These are the bare facts, but this practice, it turns out, has a lot to
do with SM.

Getting a piercing, first of all, is an incredibly intense rush, on a
purely physical level. It's a very powerful thing to willingly have
someone push a sharp piece of metal through your body. It can be a
level of sensation beyond any you've experienced in your life.

Once you have the piercing, it can completely change the way that part
of the body feels to you. One friend of mine said that his nipple
piercings turned his nipples from little places that felt OK to
full-fledged erotic zones connected right to his cock. He calls his
nipple piercings the best thing he's ever done for his body and his sex
life, and he seems damn sincere! The same goes for all the piercings in
the genital area; they can really make sex more fun.

There is some medical evidence that nerves around the pierced location
become much more sensitive, so this isn't mere folklore. In case it
wasn't clear, once a piercing heals, it doesn't hurt at all; quite the
opposite!

Some people get into play piercings, which are done temporarily with
very thin needles, which are removed at the end of the scene. This is
basically another kind of sensory trip, which some find very enjoyable.
The needles don't _hurt_, exactly, but you certainly do know they're in
there, and they sure do get those endorphins pumping!

You don't want to try permanent piercings unless you've been personally
trained by a professional; there is a lot of knowledge involved, and you
definitely don't want to get stuck with a bad piercing. Play piercings
are less hardcore, but you still want to make sure you know sterile
technique (remember safe sex!).

Does nipple piercing cause problems with nursing? Sometimes yes,
sometimes no; there are stories both ways. There are many milk ducts in
an average nipple, so the chances are good that nursing can still
happen, but nothing is certain.

For more information about piercings, see rec.arts.bodyart (or possibly
later editions of this FAQ).

"C& B play" stands for cock & ball play. "Genitorture" stands for
"genital torture". This is a subject that makes some men clutch their
nuts and run in fear, and makes other men instantly erect and greedy for
more. The male genitals are at once the most vulnerable and most
sensitive part of the male body, so of course many tops enjoy playing
with them.

Cockrings are rings that go around your cock, typically around the base
of it, behind the balls. The penis becomes erect when the blood vessels
at its base constrict (because of arousal), trapping blood in the cock
and causing it to swell. Cock rings have a similar effect, prolonging
erection in most men that use them. (They also constrict the urethra,
which will make any orgasm more painful, or even cause ejaculate to back
up into the bladder. This is not dangerous unless done repeatedly.
Experiment to find out how much tightness is toomuch.)

Most are made of leather, with adjustable snaps, so you can tighten or
loosen them to fit (as well as remove them easily). Some are made of
rubber. Some are even made of metal, but metal ones can be hazardous;
if you put a too-small one on your non-erect cock, your cock may become
so erect that you can no longer remove it--and if it is too tight, it
will prevent your cock from softening. This may involve a trip to the
emergency room and the use of bolt cutters. No joke.

Some cock rings have multiple rings, for behind the balls, around the
balls themselves, and around the base of the shaft. Some people like
using _lots_ of cock rings, to stretch the balls out away from thebody.

Safety tips: The broadest guideline is to go slowly until you know how
much you can take. If the pain from a particular activity starts to
spread into other areas of the body, or if the pain lasts for a long
time after the stimulation ends, you have probably gone beyond your
limits. You won't reach this point generally if you take your time. As
with any SM practice, if you find yourself in pain later, or if you
notice any abnormalities in your cock or balls when flaccid or erect,
see a doctor. Of course, avoid any practice that seriously wrenches or
twists the genitals; there are many ligaments and blood vessels in
there, damage to which may make it hard for you to get hard. But the
cock and balls can handle light whipping or slapping, provided it is
done with care.

Of course, cock and ball bondage can be done with leather strips,
ribbons, velvet cords, etc. Be as ornamental as you please; tying up an
erect cock can create a luscious work of art, and teasing it can be even
more artistic. Don't expect C& B bondage to keep a cock hard
indefinitely; cocks will usually get soft if not stimulated, and bondage
which _will_ keep it hard may be dangerously tight. In any event, be
sure you can remove your bondage quickly, as always.

A great deal can also be done with female genitalia. Some women love
having clothespins on their pussy lips; some love light whipping on
their outer labia, or even their clitoris. Sometimes body piercings can
be used for bondage; labia piercings can hold a pussy open very
delightfully, or clit hood piercings can be tied up out of the way with
thread, leaving the clit naked and exposed. Some women like soft fur on
their pussy; others like to be alternately soothed and tormented until
they can stand no more.

Again, go slowly. Do NOT blow into the vagina, whatever else you do.
Don't leave clamps on very long until you know how much your partner
enjoys (and how it will feel to her the next day when the scene is
over). Too much of one kind of sensation can become irritating quickly;
change the stimulation, keep your bottom aroused and surprised. There
are all _sorts_ of things that can be used on female genitals; one
article I have lists "bamboo skewers, candles, cheese graters, clips,
flyswatter, ice cubes, knives, latex squares, leather thongs, massage
bongers, rabbit fur, ropes, scalp scrubber, silk, spoons, towels,
weights, and whips" as items that can be useful in giving your bottom's
genitals a ride they won't forget. (And no, you don't do this until you
cause real damage, any more than you do with male genitals. Don't be
scraping, scabbing, or scarring--these are the most sensitive parts of
the body you're playing with!)

Communication is paramount in female genital play; women's pussies vary
as much as any other part of womens' bodies (or more), and responses
will vary equally dramatically. In general, the same sort of rhythm
discussed in the whipping section is useful in cunt play, though if
anything the top needs to go even more slowly, as the sensations will be
more intense and focused than in almost any other kind of sensation
scene.

One final tidbit: apparently, for many women, a common pre-orgasmic
response is for the clit to retreat into its hood. If you are giving
your partner some very delicious sensation (possibly combined with some
just-right pain) and her clit disappears, DON'T STOP! (Unless you
_want_ to avoid her orgasm... don't push this too far, unless your
bottom's feet are tied down--she may kick.) And know your limits; if
your bottom really wants an orgasm to end the scene, giving her one may
make her EXTREMELY grateful to you, and waiting _too_ long may burn you
both out. This is good stuff to negotiate about beforehand in any
scene--how would you like the scene to end? Breaking such an agreement
will engender mistrust, but honesty, as always, will help everyone get
what they want.

 

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