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B10. You flamed a newbie! Shouldn't you be more supportive?

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This article is from the BiSexuality FAQ, by Jon Harley jon@parkplatz.net with numerous contributions by others.

B10. You flamed a newbie! Shouldn't you be more supportive?

Soc.bi is a discussion group, not a support group. This does not mean that
people having problems with their sexuality are not welcome on soc.bi, nor
that we will not give our opinions or advice about stated problems, usually
with a sympathetic ear - after all, in many cases others of us will have
experienced similar problems.

However, it is important to note the distinction between a support group and
a discussion group. In a support group, the primary emphasis is on allowing
people to come to terms with their sexuality. In such a case, off-topic
conversations are discouraged, while opinions that may be offensive to non-
bisexuals may be allowed under the belief that its a crutch in helping the
person come to terms with their bisexuality. There's an entire soc.support.*
hierarchy where anyone who wants support can find it.

In a discussion group like soc.bi, we talk about pretty much anything and
everything; soc.bi is a place (and, for some of us, the only place) where we
can simply sit down and talk with other bisexuals. Most of us agree that it
is dangerous to allow stupidity to go unchallenged, and different people will
do this in whatever way suits them, whether that means by constructive
criticism or by flaming. The best way to avoid flames is just to remember to
practice safe posting; think about what you've written before you send it,
and always remember that being bisexual does not exempt you from the problems
of homophobia or stupidity. If you appear thoughtful, and willing to listen to
other people's opinions, you're likely to be warmly welcomed not flamed.

 

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