This article is from the BiSexuality FAQ, by Jon Harley firstname.lastname@example.org with numerous contributions by others.
It's difficult for some lesbian/gay people to come to grips with their
homosexuality, and for a while, dating MOTOS (see section B12) may make life
seem a little more "normal" and bearable. Let's face it, coming out of the
closet and living as a homosexual is no picnic; between the sanctioned
discrimination which gay/bi men face of being in a perceived high risk group
for AIDS, and the social standards of love, courtship, and marriage, being
gay at times takes more energy than humans should be asked to give.
But coming out bisexual is no easy matter, either. Some bisexuals have to face
loved ones who have relied in the past on their attraction to them being
constant, and who have to assure them that it will be there in the future.
We also often have to deal with straight friends who assure us that our
attraction to MOTSS (section B12) is just "a way of avoiding intimacy" or gay
friends who suggest that our attraction to MOTOS is "internalized homophobia".
At all events, whether or not a bisexual is currently involved with a MOTSS,
to much of the straight world anyone who comes out as bi is queer, "one of
them," and is discriminated against and excluded on that basis.
Thus, being bi is not an "easy way out," a "denial," or a "middle ground." It
is for many people the hardest decision they will ever make.