This article was written by Gini Grey, who is a Transformational Coach, utilizing a powerful blend of coaching, counseling and spiritual energy tools in her individual sessions, workshops, books and CD's. For more information go to www.ginigrey.com.
What are you committed to in your life? Are you committed to following through with your word, giving your best to your work, meeting your families and friends needs, dedicating yourself to worthy causes? What about with yourself, do you have any commitments just for you? So often, many of us put everything and everyone else first and then have very little time or energy left over to give to ourselves. As we know, this leads to frustration, resentment and burnout. Our commitments are then born out of duty and obligation rather than stemming from our hearts and desires.
When we make a commitment to honour ourselves first or at least equally, we feel full and grateful and then have the energy to give to others freely out of choice. Honouring our values and needs supports us in setting healthy boundaries and making appropriate decisions. What would your life would be like if you made a commitment to fully honour yourself on a regular basis? Are you willing to find out?
* What have you been committed to in the past year? What commitments take up the most time and energy? Are they mostly for others, or for you, or both?
* What commitments have you made in the past year that are mainly for you or honour you as much as the other (i.e. a creative hobby, learning something your really interested, pampering yourself regularly, spending time with people you enjoy, doing work that ignites your passion etc.).
* What motivates you to make commitments (i.e. passion, desire, obligation, duty, survival, pressure etc.)? How are you at fulfilling your commitments? Are there any patterns regarding commitments you break versus commitments you follow through on (for example, do you break commitments to yourself more often than to others or vice versa)?
* Make a list of all the things you would like to commit to for this next year (not have to, but want to). Start with things that are mainly for you and then add on commitments regarding other people and situations. Set your intention to implement these throughout the year.
* Make a list of all the commitments you would like to let go of this year and brainstorm ideas on how to do this (let yourself come up with zany and bizarre ideas to get your creativity and possibilities flowing) and then follow-through with these one at a time.
* Spend 10 - 15 minutes every day imagining what your life will be like as you honour yourself by making commitments that nourish and support you while letting go of ones that don't. If any guilt or fearful feelings come up, release those as well and replace them with the feelings of enthusiasm and joy.
"The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less
than you settled for".
-- Maureen Dowd