5.9 How can I get my partner to spank me harder?
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This article is from the Spanking FAQ, by Redman@cris.com (C-Red) with numerous contributions by others.
5.9 How can I get my partner to spank me harder?
If your partner actively enjoys spanking you already, you can probably just
provide some gentle encouragement; however, if your partner is not a
'natural spanker', your partner could very well be terrified of 'really'
hurting you. This is an extremely hard thing to get over. Also, your
partner may be 'freaked out' by seeing you enjoy yourself from something
that's so obviously 'painful'.
That is why the first step is to avoid pressure. Your partner has some
real, honest to goodness issues to deal with.
One thing that will help is trust. Make sure your partner knows that you
*WILL* call a halt if it hurts too much. At the same time, joke about how
tough your butt really is, and how much it takes to 'really' hurt. If you
can do it without embarrassment, a demonstration of your 'prowess' might
help. When your partner sees you smack yourself, hard, and sees that you
really didn't react badly, s/he might get over any timidity. (BTW, when
doing such a demonstration, make sure your partner can see your face; a
'traditional' spanking leaves your face hidden, so your partner can't see
if you're smiling blissfully or fighting back tears.)
It might help to make a kind of game out if it, too. Bet something your
partner likes against spanks for you, then coach your partner during your
reward spanks.
It also helps, as always, if you can give feedback for every step forward.
If every harder spank gets a "Oh, MUCH better!", the spanks will get harder
and harder! Also, don't be afraid to stop a good spanking in the middle for
a long kiss of appreciation; again, you might be sacrificing a prime
spanking now, but you'll be setting up better ones to come!
A final word of warning: DO NOT mock or tease your partner for not spanking
hard enough; this may feel like you're insulting your partner's dislike of
'really' hurting you, and can lead to badly hurt feelings. NEVER FORGET
that a reluctance to spank hard is grounded in some beautiful, caring
feelings. You want your partner to see why those feelings don't apply to
your bottom; you don't want to get rid of them altogether!
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