9# Dating Skills For Women
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This article is from the Romance and Dating FAQ, by Henning Klaskala alt.romance.FAQ@online.de with numerous contributions by others.
9# Dating Skills For Women
From: PAISLEY@auvm.american.edu
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Again, I'm not working from any kind of list, but here's my input
from a guy's point of view--these are the things I would like to
expect from a date:
1. Appreciate your date. Remember that he asked you out because he likes
you, and wants to get to know you better. And you probably think roughly
the same of him or you wouldn't have agreed to go out with him. Keep this
in mind.
2. Since one of the reasons he asked you out was to get to know you better,
LET HIM. The most frustrating date I ever had was when, after the date, I
didn't know any more about the girl or how she felt about me. On a date,
let some of yourself out. You don't have to tell him your life story, but
some insight into who you are would really be nice.
3. Remember his feelings. Hopefully, he has given some thought to make the
date something you will enjoy, but if he hasn't, don't let that ruin things
automatically. First of all, he may just be uncreative. Or, you might just
find out that it wasn't as bad as you originally thought.
4. Be understanding. Chances are, he is just as nervous as you are, and so
he may say or do some really stupid things. Try to be patient, unless he
REALLY screws up.
5. All the ideas about making your date feel special still apply. Look
at him when you talk, listen to what he says, make him feel like he really
matters to you.
6. Remember your manners. Again, this sounds really silly, but little things
like saying thank-you for dinner mean a lot. Well, it's not so much that
they mean a lot, but THEIR OMISSION means a hell of a lot, and in a bad way.
There is not much worse that to take all the time, money and effort to take
someone out and not even get a thank-you out of it. It's so little and it can
mean so much.
Well, that's all I can think of right now, just try to remember these, along
with basic common sense, and above all else, ENJOY YOURSELF!!!!
From: userisra@mts.ucs.ualberta.ca (Mark Israel)
1. Be on time. Unpunctuality is a fault with *no* redeeming features.
(However, if your date is late, don't let it spoil the evening --
remain pleasant!)
2. Wear something that makes you feel pretty -- an outfit that's proved
itself, with comfortable shoes.
3. Tell yourself you're not nervous, just excited.
4. Read a newspaper or watch a news program that day so you'll have
something to talk about and sound as if you know what's happening in
the world.
5. If you can begin with the exchange of warm relaxed smiles, you have
a lot going for you.
6. Be open -- to him, his plans, and the shape the evening takes.
7. Use every opportunity to be observant, sensitive, perceptive, and
appreciative of what your date does or may have done.
8. If something embarrassing happens, "confess" so that you can both
laugh over it.
9. If you're having a good time, let him know it.
10. Call him because you've just heard something that he'd love to know
about, a joke on a favourite subject, or a piece of news relating to
one of his heroes. He will feel that you two are really on the same
beam, and it will encourage him to think of you when *he* has news
he wants to share with someone.
11. Be busy. Projects of your own make for much more interesting
discussion than last night's TV program.
12. Caring about each other more than petty victories is the essence of
positive loving. Equality is not measured by a single act.
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