2# Seeing 'The Signs' (Body Language etc.)
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This article is from the Romance and Dating FAQ, by Henning Klaskala alt.romance.FAQ@online.de with numerous contributions by others.
2# Seeing 'The Signs' (Body Language etc.)
From: drl@sol.acs.unt.edu (Laakso Dianna)
peregrin@husc13.harvard.edu (James Peregrino) writes:
[...]
>1) she makes an attempt to break your personal space. i.e gets a little
>closer to you than most people do.
Yes, this is something some of us do. When standing and talking to
someone I'm attracted to, I move just a little closer. If there's
an empty seat beside him then of course I sit there. If he's done
something kind for me then I touch him lightly on the arm when I
say 'thanks'. Etc.
>2) she conveniently runs into. Especially if your daily patterns are
>predictable.
Yep. I would try to be where he is.... but not so often that I would
make a pest of myself.
>3) her dressing patterns change. But balance this with knowing that it
>could be due to a change in season.
If she begins to wear pretty things, like romantic dresses, or skirts
instead of jeans, jewlery when she never did before, perfume, a more
attractive hairstyle, then interpret it as a sign. These are all things
I find myself doing when I'm interested in someone.
>4) Is she nervous around you? Makes silly mistakes?
Definitely a sign, especially if she's just getting to know you...
however, if the nervousness diminishes, DON'T take it as a sign
that she's losing interest! Personally the more I like him and
the more I get to know him, the less nervous I am around him.
>5) When you are having a conversation with her and it is going well (or
>very interesting) does she appear inordinately happy about that?
How do you know women so well? ;) You'll see it in her eyes...if she
thinks things are going well and that you're interested in her too, then
it will show. Just take a good look into her eyes. You can't miss it.
>6) Has she made any attempt to feel you out? A personal question dropped
>in the middle of a conversation. Look for questions such as "Where are
>you from?" "What town do you live in?". And especially any information
>that could be used to determine if you are single or attached.
'What do you like to do in your free time?' 'How do you like this or that
about your job?' 'Tell me about your family' I've been in a situation
before when I was almost positive that he was interested in me, but
I got the feeling that he was waiting for me to ask about his personal
life, because it had something to do with his hesitation in starting a
relationship with me. I didn't ask though...most women wouldn't unless
they are very assertive (wish I were). Don't take it as a sign of
non-interest if she doesn't take hints like that.
>7) Body language: Either A) Looks you right in the eye. B) Avoids your
>glance. Contradictory? Sure, but it is up to you to test this. Does
>she look everyone else right in the eye? You job is to see if you can
>find a consistent pattern of things that she does differently around
>you.
I look him straight in the eye, and hold his eyes a moment longer
than I would in ordinary conversation with just anyone.
James, you're a pretty observant guy. I wish they were all!
- Dianna
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