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31. Aren't there too many topics on s.s.b-b?

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31. Aren't there too many topics on s.s.b-b?

Every now and then, someone posts to s.s.b-b asking why there are so
many postings about some topic that's not straightforward bondage.
Wouldn't it be a good idea to split the group, so the {gays/heavy
players/people into whipping} could go off and be by themselves? Wasn't
soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm created for the purpose of discussing
bondage?

The answers are no and no. s.s.b-b was created in response to a joke
that turned serious. The group has no explicit charter, and no set of
guidelines as to what is and is not appropriate.

What s.s.b-b has evolved into (and actually has always been) is, as the
intro to this FAQ states, a group for discussing "ways to have sex that
are outside the mainstream". This is an awfully wide description. There
is room underneath it for discussing everything from "how do I tie
someone up?" to "how can I play with razors safely?" to "what's it like
to love someone of your sex?"

The inevitable consequence of this is that people sometimes get exposed
to material that squicks them. That's life in the big net. There is no
guarantee that everything on s.s.b-b will suit your personal interests.
The general rule of the net applies here in spades: if you don't like
it, hit "n" and ignore it. It's guaranteed that there are many many out
there who _do_ like it. Remember, limits are relative; many of the
"heavy players" you read about started as novices themselves, and
the person who just described their intense whipping scene may be unable
to handle even the lightest tickling... food for thought!

I just finished reading a few stories about nonconsensual rape and
sadistic murder that were posted netwide. I personally disliked those
stories. Do I think they're appropriate for s.s.b-b? Not really. Can I
stop them from being posted? Nope. Can I ignore them? Hell yes.
Remember, a story is a fantasy that someone bothered to write down...
and fantasies can't hurt anybody--if you don't like it, ignore it! That
is certainly more productive than flaming the person who wrote it.

Can the ferment of different topics and views on s.s.b-b degenerate into
chaos? Yes, and it sometimes does. But more frequently, the mixing of
interests and ideas generates a really wonderful dialogue out of which
new knowledge and fantasy is born. Novices pipe up with questions that
spark an insightful reply by an old-timer. Old-timers post about some
experience that gets lurkers' juices flowing everywhere. Someone who
knows a lot about one kind of play tries something new and posts about
it.

s.s.b-b works, like no other group I know of on the net. So don't be too
hasty with that "n" key... you might learn something!

 

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