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16. What is "fisting"?

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This article is from the Bondage FAQ, by numerous contributors.

16. What is "fisting"?

Everyone (well, almost everyone) knows what finger-fucking is. Whether
in ass or pussy, it's terrifically enjoyable to stroke someone inside.
(Fingers up a man's ass, if aimed properly, will tickle his prostate
gland, which feels AMAZINGLY good... just a little tip!) And people are
generally comfortable with the idea of finger-fucking with more than one
finger. But not as many people have been exposed to the idea of
inserting a _whole hand_ into the ass or pussy... which is, in simplest
terms, what fisting is. Yes, it's anatomically possible, and yes, it's
EXTREMELY pleasurable. (I haven't experienced it, save vicariously.)

That said, it's now very important to explain what fisting is _not_. You
do _not_ make a fist and ram it home. Fisting is one of the most
intimate and complete ways to touch another human being, and it is
something that has to be worked up to slowly and gently. There have been
many posts about fisting on s.s.b-b, talking about the proper technique,
the safety concerns, the fantastic feeling of openness and connection,
the magical plane that two people fisting can attain... it's an
incredibly intense way to make love. I can't do justice to the firsthand
descriptions others have written, but I can mention some of the safety
concerns.

First of all, cut and file all your nails until every finger is as
smooth as it could _possibly_ be. Your fingers will be in some very
delicate places--places that may not have pain receptors. You want to
make sure you minimize all chance of causing damage.

Use latex gloves. AIDS is a matter of life and death.

You will probably want to clean your bottom's GI tract out. What else
are enemas for? Be gentle with enemas; warm water is best. Don't use
detergent in enemas. Some people enjoy putting alcohol (booze, not
rubbing alcohol!) in enemas; if you do, use a VERY VERY VERY DILUTED
solution, since it will get absorbed _real_ fast, and the bottom won't
be able to expel it if they get too drunk. (I don't know a precise
dosage, since this seems a bit too risky for me.)

Use LOTS (and I mean __LOTS__) of lube. Push it in with your fingers.
Make a huge mess. Get it all over your hand, the back of your hand,
between your fingers. Keep applying it as you go. You can't have too
much lube. Remember, oil-based lubricants dissolve latex. Some people
like KY jelly; others say it dries out too quickly. In the UK, a
substance called "Aqueous Cream" is the creme de la creme. Others use
"J-Lube," which is a powdered concentrate that when added to water
produces incredibly slippery goo; it's sold in veterinary supply houses!
(Some people still use Crisco with latex gloves, on the theory that the
Crisco is just the best lube, and the gloves don't break down _that_
fast. This is risky, but it's an option.)

Go slowly. Start with one finger and work up. DON'T RUSH. Be sensitive
to your bottom's feelings. You are trying to persuade part of their body
to open for you, to admit part of you deeply inside it. The energy will
move back and forth, and you'll ride it, coaxing and pushing, in and
out, moving your bottom into a trance. Keep communi- cating with your
bottom; gags, or role-playing where the bottom feels inferior or is told
to stay quiet, are not conducive to the kind of relaxation and open
empathy you'll need.

If your bottom suddenly hits their limit, you'll know; their orifice
will clench tight shut suddenly. DON'T PULL OUT. Stay right where you
are until the contraction ends, THEN start pulling out. You can pull a
muscle or two if you try to back out in the middle of a reaction like
that. If this happens, it's OK; you'll know to go slower next time (if
you both want to try again). But assuming all is well....

When you reach five fingers, you're almost there. Now is when you want
to be most sensitive and most aware. Your bottom is going to be flying
on pain and pleasure; a sudden flinch and you'll find the asshole (or
whatever) doesn't want you anymore. Respect that, and pull out
(slowly!). But if your bottom's bottom wants it, then you'll slip your
knuckles inside, folding your thumb inside your fingers, and (so I've
been told) your hand will NATURALLY form a fist--you DON'T need to
clench your hand or anything else!

Now the real fun begins... explore, entice, pleasure your bottom, who
will be in heaven... and when it comes time to pull out, do so slowly
and naturally!

If you have more questions (as always), post to s.s.b-b; there have been
some GREAT pieces on fisting in the past, and there will be more if you
ask for them.

 

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