This article is from the Magick Tantra FAQ, by Tyagi Nagasiva email@example.com, Catherine Yronwode firstname.lastname@example.org with numerous contributions by others.
That would of course depend on the type of person one's
partner happens to be. Those who are open to sexuality and
mysticism are more likely to be persuaded to study or
experiment, and, personal tastes being what they are, the
presentation, style, or education of instructors may or may
not conform to one's partner's tastes or ethics.
A good place to start is by sounding out in discussion what
the partner's interests and possible limitations might be in
the investigation of sexual mysticism. If sexuality turns them
off, then more ascetic and symbolic disciplines may become
valuable introductions to the subject matter. If mysticism
brings goose-bumps, then framing the enterprise as an
exploration and study of consciousness (and the outer limits
of ecstasy) may prove to be more palatable.
The important thing is not to push too strongly or put such an
emphasis on the study of the subject that it becomes tantamount
to an unintentional ultimatum. Sometimes talking about matters
of intimacy is much more frightening than actually *exploring*
them, and with the right level of patience, understanding, and
flexibility, combined with a sincere desire to make it the
project of a *combined* effort, any obstacles may be overcome.