This article is from the Relativity and FTL Travel FAQ, by Jason W. Hinson jason@physicsguy.com with numerous contributions by others.
There are four specific things I want to make note of concerning the
twin paradox as I have explained it.
First, we should note that the outcome of the above thought experiment
(i.e. the fact that Sam ended up younger than Ed) is completely dependent on
the fact that Sam turned around and headed back to Ed. If instead Ed had
done the acceleration when he saw his own clock tick 4 years and had headed
over to meet Sam, then Ed would be the one who had aged a total of 8 years
while Sam had aged 10 years. Notice that the twin who undergoes the
acceleration must actually have a physical force applied to him to cause
that acceleration. During the acceleration he is no longer an inertial
observer (this is why his frame of reference shifts while the other twin's
frame does not shift). That differentiates his situation from the twin who
does not accelerate, and that breaks the symmetry between the two observers.
Unless one of them goes through an acceleration, their situations are
completely symmetric, and there is no absolute answer to the question "which
twin is younger?"
Second, I want to note something particular about the acceleration Sam
went through. Look back at the lines of simultaneity drawn for Sam's frame
before and after he accelerated. As we noted, the point where his "t' = 4"
line of simultaneity cross the t axis (Ed's position) shifts upward when Sam
turns around. Notice, however, that if Sam had taken a longer trip, then he
would have done the acceleration when he was further from Ed. Then that
"shift" would have been even larger, and after the acceleration, Sam's new
frame of reference would be one in which Ed's clock had "jumped" ahead an
even greater number of years. So, for Sam, the longer the trip he takes, the
bigger the change will be when he switches his frame of reference, and that
will make him an even greater number of years younger than Ed when they get
back together. Of course, for Ed, the longer the trip is for Sam, the longer
Sam's clock will be running slowly. So, Ed too agrees (with a different
explanation) that Sam will be more years younger than Ed in the end if the
trip is longer. As a final point on this, note that when Sam first
accelerates to start his trip, he is right next to Ed, so the acceleration
doesn't have much effect at all (as is true for his final acceleration at
the end of the trip). That is why we basically ignored those accelerations.
Third, I want to note something about Sam's explanation of the events.
Recall that when he changed frames of reference, his clock read 4 years
while (in his new frame) Ed's clock read 6.8 years. One may think that Sam
has thus changed to a frame where Ed's clock has been running faster;
however, we know that in Sam's new frame, Ed is still moving with respect to
Sam. Thus, in Sam's new frame Ed's clock has still been running slowly the
whole time. To understand how this can be, consider a third observer (Tim)
who has always been in the frame of reference which Sam has during the last
part of the trip. Let's say that Tim was traveling along (going to Earth)
when he saw Sam headed towards him, and to Tim's surprise, Sam turns around
and joins Tim in Tim's frame of reference as the two come together. Thus,
after Sam turns around, he and Tim are moving together, side by side. Now,
Tim notices that right after Sam turns around, Sam's clock reads 4 years.
Regardless of what Tim's clock reads, he can reset his clock to 4 years, and
we can backtrack 4 years along Tim's path to identify the origin of Tim's
frame (Sam's new frame). In Diagram 4-3 I have drawn (along with everything
in Diagram 4-2 Tim's path, the origin (o') of Sam's new frame of reference,
and a line of simultaneity for Tim's and Sam's frame at that origin.
Diagram 4-3
t ^ | t=10 + t'=8 |* | * | * | * | * t=6.8\ * | * | \ * | * t=5+ - - - - * - - -> (t = 5 | \ line) | \ \ t=3.6|\ \ | \ \ | \ \ (t'= 4 | \ line) | \ \ | \ | \ \ -----o-------------------o'----->x | \ | (Tim's path)
 
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