This article was written by Gini Grey, who is a Transformational Coach, utilizing a powerful blend of coaching, counseling and spiritual energy tools in her individual sessions, workshops, books and CD's. For more information go to www.ginigrey.com.
We all have experiences. The only meanings they have are the ones we give them. We often categorize our experiences into one side or the other of a dichotomy: good/bad, positive/negative, pleasant/unpleasant, exciting/boring, rich/bland and so on. Occasionally we might find a balance in between and claim the experience was okay or so-so. What if we didn't judge, analyze or slot our experiences into any grouping, but instead let them just be?
Perhaps we'd release ourselves from the pressure of having to succeed, be good, and have only pleasant experiences. We might feel relief and freedom as we remove the weight of failure. Who set the rules for what a positive or negative experience is anyway? What about the lessons gained from a mistake, or the growth, opportunities and richness that arise from what appeared to be an unpleasant experience?
Experiences are always changing, with polarities shifting and at times appearing to merge in to and out of one another. Imagine enjoying every experience life has to offer, reveling equally in the steep slopes, expansive vistas, and flat planes. What a freeing experience life would be!
* Look back over one or two years of your life. Notice if you categorize your experiences into polarities of positive or negative, success or failure etc.
* For the experiences you categorized into positive, successful or pleasant, what made them so? Could they be seen from another point of view? Did they lead to more positive experiences or to something else?
* For the experiences you categorized into negative, failure or unpleasant, what made them so? Could they be seen from another point of view? Did you learn anything, grow or discover any other opportunities as a result?
* Take several of your life experiences that you previously categorized into negative, failure or unpleasant, and re-examine them from other perspectives. Give them a different meaning; look for the positive side. What have you gained because of that experience? Who are you because of that experience?
* Take a so-called positive experience as well as a negative one and remove the labeling. View each of them from the perspective of neutrality; see the experience as one of many life experiences (much the way an actor might view taking on a variety of roles throughout his or her career).
* Practice being in the moment with each experience you have in your life without judging or categorizing; just experience the fullness of it and notice how you feel in the moment. Watch the experience shift and change into something new.
"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced." Soren Kierkegaard