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Frequently Asked Questions about bondage

This FAQ about Bondage was compiled and written by numerous contributors.

-0 Introduction
Soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm is a Usenet discussion group, ...
-1. 1. What do B&D, S&M, D&S, "top", "bottom" mean?
The easy part first: B&D = bondage & dominance or bondage &...
-2. What is a "scene", and what is "negotiation"?
SM has definite connotations of theater. The fact that you are ...
-3. What is a "safeword"?
One of the thrills of SM is that it can stretch your limitations. ...
-4. When is pain not pain?
Often people outside the scene don't see the appeal in any of the ...
-5. What are some basics of safe SM, emotionally and physically?
SM is often play, and as such is fun! But SM can also get intense ...
-6. Is everyone either a top or a bottom?
One perception that some people can have, looking into the scene ...
-7. How can I learn to be a good top?
When first getting into the scene, it can often be somewhat ...
-8. How can I learn to be a good bottom?
It can also be hard to learn to bottom, if what you're used to ...
-9. Why is bondage fun?
Lots of reasons. For many people, the knowledge that they are helpless,...
-10. Why is whipping fun?
One way of thinking about whipping is as another way of ...
-11. What is body piercing? What is "C& B" play, or "genitorture"?
Piercings aren't just done to ears. People on this list have ...
-12. What is cutting/play piercing/burning/branding/electrical play?What are "bloodsports"?
First questions first. Cutting is the SM practice of using a scalpel ...
-13. What is it about breath control? Is it safe to make someone passout?
Some people enjoy playing with cutting off their air during ...
-14. What are "golden showers"? How about "scat"?
Another kind of play, also known as water sports. Basically, ...
-15. Is anal sex safe? Why do people do it?
Anal sex, practiced properly, is as safe as any other kind of sex. ...
-16. What is "fisting"?
Everyone (well, almost everyone) knows what finger-fucking is. ...
-17. Does the way I play qualify as "real" SM? What is "real" SM,anyway?
Sometimes on a.s.b, people will post wondering if what they do ...
-18. What is it about leather/latex/high heels/corsets/other fetishes?
All these things--erotic clothing or objects of whatever type--...
-19. What about shaving body hair and/or crossdressing?
Another fetish many people have is smooth skin, with no body hair....
-20. Why am I defending SM?
One of the problems with SM is the social programming against it. ...
-21. Is SM degrading or abusive? Were most SM people abused?
Often people approach SM with nothing but negative stereotypes in ...
-22. Why is SM taboo, and is SM criminal, unnatural, immoral, unethical,or unhealthy?
If what I've been saying in this FAQ is accurate, then why haven't ...
-23. Isn't the bottom always in control?
One of the paradoxes of SM revolves around consensuality. Everything ...
-24. Can someone "really" be someone else's slave?
This is the last question in another guise. Is it possible for there ...
-25. What are the "codes"?
Often the hanky code is mentioned on s.s.b-b. What is it? It's ...
-26. My fantasies scare me. What if I get too into SM?
Sometimes people who are attracted by some aspects of SM worry that ...
-27. I want to throw a play party; how can I go about it?
Occasionally on soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm^ ^there is a flurry of ...
-28. I want to attend a play party; what is the etiquette?
The simplest way to fit in in a play party is to behave politely. ...
-29. What's the deal with this anonymity stuff?
There are many people who post to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm ...
-30. Are SM people subjected to political or social harassment?
Like all alternate sexualities, SM is stigmatized in many ways by ...
-31. Aren't there too many topics on s.s.b-b?
Every now and then, someone posts to s.s.b-b asking why there are ...
-32. I'm sick of certain topics on s.s.b-b. How can I avoid them? Also,what's with all these ads?
s.s.b-b, like all Usenet groups, has its share of flame wars. Many ...
-33. I don't have access to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm; what can I doto get information about the scene?
A question I've been getting more and more often as my FAQ ...
-34. What is role-playing?
Most children know the thrill of dress-up, let's-pretend,...
-35. What are some web sites/books/magazines/organizations/stores/newsarchives where I can get SM information or toys, or meet people in thescene?
This list is (permanently and congenitally) incomplete and needs all ...
-35 Bondage Fiction books
Not all of the scenarios in these books are what I would ...
-35 Bondage Organizations
First of all, people who read s.s.b-b or other ...
-35 Mail-order houses
Most of these places require you to state that you're 21 or over ...









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